New Year’s Resolutions is a hot topic, especially as we are finally into 2017! Congratulations! We made it through 2016! However, some people point out that resolutions seem unrealistic or even silly like in the previous post, and they’re not entirely wrong. It is true that a new year doesn’t actually mean new beginnings – after all, time is linear and not tangible. It’s essentially a human construct. And it is true that you should live every day fighting for a goal or accomplishment instead of giving up in the middle and waiting until the new year comes around. But I like the idea of New Year’s Resolutions. I think that it gives me a time frame that I want to work with – a whole year to work for what I want. And I think the key to having New Year’s Resolutions is that you have to make it realistic and meaningful.
Some people choose unrealistic resolutions or goals that they aren’t actually passionate about. It only works if you choose things that you really, truly, with all your being want to accomplish or change. Something that you think is possible because you can feel it inside of you or you’re feeling super up to the challenge. If you halfheartedly throw out, “Oh, I guess I’ll lose some weight next year,” when you’re already thinking about all the burgers you want to eat or shuddering at the exercise to come because your body is repulsed by the idea with all its being or just indifferent about it but feeling guilty like you should care, then of course that is not going to work. You don’t have the willpower for that. That’s not a true resolution. You have to pick something that you really want to work on, like a workman whittling down wood at his table carefully and lovingly. Something you can see yourself dedicated to throughout the year.
If you think too much about resolutions, you are bound to get overwhelmed, burdened, and freaked out, leading to you backing out and then feeling guilty because you didn’t accomplish your resolutions. Don’t let it be such a serious thing; it’s something that you do for yourself because you want to. You didn’t sign a contract with dire consequences upon breaching it. Believe in yourself. Make resolutions you really care about. And then don’t say any disclaimers about the likelihood of you failing because if you don’t believe in yourself, who will? No one is going to judge you for failing in the end, and if they do, why should you care? You weren’t doing it for them in the first place. If they’re true friends, they should chastise you for speaking nonsense and then saying they have faith in you. Also, don’t have resolutions if you don’t want to. Just say you don’t have any when asked instead of trying to come up with something that you don’t mean for the sake of having an answer to the question. Everyone is different, and this really may not work for some people. For me, I take my resolutions seriously, and so I believe I have already accomplished something this year – deciding who I want to become. That already makes me one step closer to my future self. There’s nothing better than having a goal, feeling a purpose, and wanting to be a better me.
Happy New Year, everyone! I truly hope you have an amazing 2017!